Dear donor family,

This letter is coming to you with the sincerest of appreciation for your willingness to share the opportunity to fulfill a lifelong dream of building on to our family with the experience of carrying a baby. This is the biggest gift you could give to someone who has struggled with infertility for many years. We are both eager and excited to get to experience the joy of pregnancy together!

This decision to pursue embryo adoption is one that has been many years in the making. (Husband) has 3 children from a previous marriage with one being biological and the other 2 adopted. They are 14, 12, and 11 years old. We have a 4 year old little boy who we have recently adopted from foster care. I have no biological children and struggled with infertility throughout my adult life. I have tried many iui’s, several rounds of ivf, and finally 2 rounds of ivf with donor eggs. I always knew from a young age that I wanted to be a mom and to never be able to conceive and feel a baby from within kicking and moving is something that has never subsided. After lots of counseling, I finally got to a place of acceptance which led us to become a foster family.

Fostering has been a tough road, but it led us to our son. He was our first placement and his adoption was finalized on January 15, 2025. When he was 2 years old we took another placement. This time a 5 day old premature baby girl. We fell in love with her immediately. She quickly became a part of our family. The goal of foster care, though, is reunification and at 22 months old, she went to live with a relative. While she is thriving and we get periodic pictures, that took a tole on our family and have decided that we can’t put our kids through that again so we are closing our home.

Through all of this, the deep desire to carry a baby is still there. This is something that we dream about experiencing together. From getting to see the lines on the pregnancy test to morning sickness and feeling the baby kick and flutter to the delivery is what brings us to this decision. We are so excited and hopeful and cannot wait to bring another life into our family.

Now that we’ve given you some background on how we got here, we would love to tell you a little about us and our family. We live in a small town with lots of extended family around. We are heavily involved in our church and community and believe that leading our kids by example will open their hearts to serving the Lord and community as they grow up. We love spending time together playing board games, having movie nights and camping. We love our yearly vacation to the beach where we get to relax and play and just be together in the sun. Our oldest is in the 8thgrade and plays volleyball for her school and she is on a travel team. There hasn’t been a sport she has played that she hasn’t excelled at, but volleyball is her passion. Our 12 year old is in the 7th grade and loves all things basketball and video games. The 11 year old has never been athletic, but loves to play anyways. She’s more of a social butterfly and has no problems making friends everywhere we go. Our 4 year old is boy all the way. His best friend is his brother, but is 100% a mama’s boy. He currently plays soccer, is in a basketball skill building program and will try his hand at t-ball in the spring. To say the older 3 spoil him is an understatement.

Family has always been a huge part of our lives, so living close to grandparents, aunts and uncles, and cousins is the reason we live where we do. Not only do we all go to church together, but we still celebrate birthdays, all holidays, and vacations together. We have a huge support system who are heavily involved in our lives. It is a privilege and so important to us that our kids know that they never have to wonder if anyone will show up for their game, school program, or birthday.

As for us as a couple, you have a police officer and a corporate administrator turned daycare teacher. (Husband) has always known he wanted to be in the military and law enforcement and he did both. Now he protects the city where we live. I worked in the corporate world for all of my adult life until last year when I felt called to leave and be more involved in the daycare where our 4 year old is attending preschool. We both love traveling and trying new things together. We have a passion for missions and have participated in mission trips with our church over the last few years. This is something we want our children to see and be a part of when they are old enough.

We want to thank you for taking the time to get to know us a little bit and for this opportunity to grow our family.